Since You've Asked...

Boyfriend Requirments - this is an extreme list, there are grey areas, and this is mostly for fun, although most of it is true:

You must be no no older and no more than 15 years younger than me. I don't do older. I do like younger ones, as long as they have a sense of self, or are very open to suggestion and advice.

You must Must MUST have a job. Type of job doesn't matter, as long as you're doing what you love or are going to school/working for doing what you love. I will NOT date a free loader.

Please have a car (especially in So Cal. If I move to SF or NY of London this rule need not apply) I will not be your chauffeur.

As far as the physical goes, I tend to go for someone smaller than me. Both shorter than 5'10" and more slender, under 200 pounds. Skinny people freak me out (lean/thin is ok, as long as you're not skeletal), and massively overweight just doesn't cut it for me. Ethnicity isn't an issue - I've seen hot men of all colors and races, and would love to explore in this area.

Musical tastes: I love music. A lot. Anything except hardcore gangsta rap/hip-hop, most country, death metal. You must also accept the fact that I like Madonna, Kylie, Britney and musical theater. I won't force it on you, and I don't listen to them every single day anyway. Let's be open about our taste in music! I love hearing new kinds of music, artists, etc. Oh, and if you like alternative/emo and the like, I won't hate you, but yeah...hehe.

You must accept the fact that I enjoy theater, concerts, and dance. If that turns you off completely, don't even bother with me. I'm not some femmy flamboyant faggot that will embarrass you.

Speaking of mannerisms: If you are extremely feminine and catty, I will not be attracted to you. If you are butchier than the day is long, I will not be attracted to you. Basically, I like boys. I like a guy who is masculine but is comfortable with his feminine side. It's ok to be campy, but be real - whoever you are, ok?

Vices: I like to drink. If you do any other drugs, it's not gonna happen. If you smoke pot, that's a drug, and it's not gonna happen. If you smoke, it's not gonna happen.

I like to go out, you should too. Not all the time, but occasionally. I love to stay at home and watch a movie, hang out with my friends and carry on as well. I would say I prefer staying in or going out to dinner one-on-one more than going to bars and clubs.

Speaking of going out, I'm more of a bar person than a club person. I do go to clubs once in a while, but it's not an every weekend thing for me. I also love going to museums, seeing shows (live theater, concerts, etc.), going on picnics, bbq's, the beach (usually at night but I'm not opposed to day outings on the beach either), roller skating (in a rink), bowling, coffee, shopping, you name it.

Negatory bitches can just forget about it too. You must have a positive outlook on life. If you're constantly bitching about your life, your job, your body, etc. I will get EXTREMELY annoyed with you and not want to talk to you anymore. And on that note, DRAMA is only meant for the stage, you got it? If you're constant drama in real life, I will leave your queen ass.

Flakes, liars, cheats, stealers and meanies need not apply. Duh. Just remember: karma's a BITCH.

I am spiritual and believe in a plurality of gods and goddesses and spiritual energies. If you're an atheist, it's not gonna work.

Intelligent, well read, and cultured people turn me on. Nothing attracts me more than a smart well rounded man.

I'm a hopeless romantic. I love romance and passion. Please be the same way.

If you are glued to your phone, I will get turned off immediately. Also, if you're the type that doesn't have cell phone etiquette (answering the phone during a meal, a film/show, or when only you and I are conversing), I will leave.

Not into astrological signs much, but I'm a Capricorn. Several times over. If you know you match with me, please call. If you know about Capricorns, then you must know that I'm loyal and extremely stable but can be a bit cold and distant when things don't go my way.

Any form of abuse (physical/emotional/verbal/etc.) will NOT be tolerated.

Be self sufficient! Not just in your job, but in your life. Do not depend on me for every single thing in your life. I do not believe in the 2 become 1 thing, unless it's in bed ;) I believe in compatibility and complimentary relationships. Other half shit is not the way to go. I am me, and you are you. Along with that, if things get serious, I don't want to see you once a month or twice a month, I'm going to want to see you several times a week, you get the idea, right?

I do believe in the possibility of open relationships. It isn't where I want to start, it isn't where it has to go - but if a mother can love more than one child, I figure a man can love more than one man. I know I have so far in my life. It seems possible that it can be done. I believe two people make choices based on what is best for each individual. If you feel strongly in monogamy, make me happy and I will be good with it. If you believe strongly in open relationships, make sure I'm a priority or I won't have a need for you.

Sex is not needed on a daily basis, but quite frequently :)

Must live within a close range. I don't do long distance relationships. I've tried them, they do NOT work.

I like adventure. I need someone adventurous. I like spontaneous acts (within reason, of course) Boring people please, snap out of it!

Not into circuit gays. Meaning, I don't JUST do gay things. There's way more to me than being gay.

Creative types and artists preferred.

If you've read this far and feel like you can man up to me, call me :)

December 1 Update

Down almost 40 pounds and still going.

August 1 Update

Yeah, it's late. I forgot that I wanted to do this. So here are some pictures of me taken August 1.